What to be thankful for today?
- Nate is a college student, nearing the end of his time at SUNY-Cobleskill and graduating in spring. Unbelievable still.
- Watching Nate order his own food at a restaurant. That may not seem like much, but to see him control the little things in his life, things we all take for granted, gives me real hope that he will, someday, be independent.
- At a friend’s house, seeing Nate play with their 7-year old twin girls. Nate used to hate little kids and babies and would often lash out. It was a big concern for us. Having him play tic tac toe is the equivalent of standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon. Behold, a miracle!
- Nate, keeping it together as our schedule prevents him from eating his three square meals at his preferred times. No tantrums when dinner started at 7:30 instead of 5. Again, doesn’t seem like a huge event to some, but to us it’s titanic.
- A corollary to #1. Peeking in on Nate at the kitchen table, in the TV room, in the dining room, and spotting him, without prompting, studying for a history test. That may be the best. What he says about Pinocchio applies to him as well: “Nate’s a real boy!”
There’s so much more. We’re not thankful that Nate is hyperlexic; it’s not what’s best for him. Yet, Nate is Nate, couldn’t be anything other, and our family is simply not the same without his quirks, his humor, his outbursts, his overall uniqueness. And for that, for him, I am truly thankful.
Enjoy your day, and your dinner.